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It is no secret that the prospective groom is usually completely uninterested in wedding planning. Trying to decide whether you want burgundy or maroon napkins is tedious work and bombarding your groom with questions is not going to get you anywhere. However, it is his day as well and there are many decisions he can help you with. For example:
- Food tasting. They say the quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach. It's a great way to spend an afternoon together and an area of planning that will likely keep him interested.
- Tuxedo shopping. I know clothes shopping is usually at the bottom of a man's list of exciting things to do, but do not just pick something out and make him wear it. Tuxedos come in lots of styles and so it should reflect his personal taste. Make it a boy's night out with his groomsmen. Balance the formal stuffiness with pizza, beer and a football game and let them plot the bachelor party.
- Making honeymoon arrangements. This was the one thing my husband insisted on planning. Put him in charge of everything from transportation for the wedding night, to hotel arrangements. If he's a procrastinator, an occasional status check will help keep him on track.
- Groomsmen gifts. He knows his closest guys better than anyone else, so it makes sense that he buys them their gifts. It's a thank you gift for standing next to him on this important occasion, so it should mean something to the both of them. And do not laugh at him for buying his best man a personalized ukulele, if it came from the heart, that's all that matters. Who knows, maybe he's moving to Hawaii.
- Designing the groom's cake. The groom's cake is supposed to reflect his personal style and taste. Take him cake testing with you and he can pick his favorite from the line up as well. Talk to the bakery about special shapes or other personal touches that will help him design a cake just for him.
There are things to remember as well.
- Do not nag. Nagging automatically turns off his ears. If he's not interested, he's not going to give you a valuable opinion, he's just going to tell you something so he can go back to watching the game.
- Pick your battles. Sometimes, it's just not worth the fight. You're planning the event that tells the world that you are both in love, so do notgue over the little stuff. Before you even start planning your wedding, have a discussion about expectations with each other. Then, if arguments still arise, learn the greatest secret of marriage, compromise.
- Quality time. Spend time with your man where you do not discuss the wedding. Remind him that you're still the smart, funny and interesting woman he fell in love with.
- Value his opinion. Do not go with maroon when he said burgundy. He's less likely to give you his honest opinion in the future if he feels that you are not actually going to heed his advice. Incorporating his ideas and decisions will help him feel more connected to the event.
Give and take, that's what marriage is all about.
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Source by Erica Adkins
