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The word wedding is always associated with joy, happiness and good things.
For sure it is, but many brides -to-be, find themselves living in a sort of nightmare before the big day, getting to it completely stressed out.
The truth is that planning a big event is like approaching a new project, so it should be taken with the right perspective. It's not that complicated, it does only require a good organization, but it's not easy breeze if you do not consider some factors that could become crucial.
Let's talk about the one that brides like the least … how to deal with the entire wedding party.
A wedding is a celebration that involves the couple, the families and the friends. Said this, it's a small world of people. The couple is the fulcrum of this entourage. Grooms are changed, nowdays.Until few years ago, they could not care less about the reception or the other thousands of details that were usually decided by the bride only. But along with the modern grooming attitude that is incorporating most of the men out there, now often they do care very much about wedding planning and they want to have their say too.
A good strategy to avoid splitting before the nuptials is to agree at least on the main wedding theme. Then to consider the word "compromise". If there's something that one of the two really wants, well, get it. Try to save on something else. It's a celebration for both of you and it should be rewarding and pleasant for both of you. Considering also that most probably both are paying for it, fighting would be a no win game. If you build a strong team between you two, then it will be easier to face the "Families".
Regarding this, ask yourself how much they are contributing in your wedding, to decide a percentage of their say. Seems materialistic, but it's only realistic. Do not expect them to take out the wallet and, at least, not trying to decide or suggest something. The secret is to make them happy, listening to their ideas, then trying to make them yours in your own way. Usually this works pretty well and save the future relationship with in-laws. It's a new version of the old rule "counting up to 100" and a little lesson of diplomacy too.
Groomsmen are usually not a problem, while bridesmaids could become one. If you keep their number reasonable, the probability of having issues will be minor.
Treat them as friends, who could become helpful in some part of the organization, but please do not become a bridezilla. They are not paid personnel, they have their own lives and they will try, nine times out of ten, to be helpful, but you have to consider that life is complicated and heactic for everyone. In case, leave them alone during the early stage of planning, and insist more on their presence towards the end. If they see their tasks as a sort "time-limited thing", they will be more likely to accomplish them nicely.
Another issue that could break your nerves is children-management. Although we all love them, when they have to be included in the reception, they become like "a problem to solve". Poor things … yes they actually could be one, but if you manage the task "kids" with cleverness, they will be happy, and their mothers, who are supposedly to be your friends, too.
Make a quick headcount of how many kids you are going to have at your wedding and arrange one experienced babysitter every ten. Ask to the venue's manager which could be the right spot for kids table, if they are grown up enough to eat by themselves, and arrange an area for them to play or watch a DVD, not too close to the other guests' tables.
Provide a choice of not-messy activities: any arts and crafts store has plenty of them. Thanks to the babysitter, the meal, the overall exhibition and maybe a couple of kid's movies, you will not even notice that they were at your reception except for their presence in the pictures, which are always cute to have.
Get it? The concept is simple. Arguing does not pay, never, either in terms of real money (and trust me, rivalries in families usually cost double than agreements) or in terms of overall happiness.
So, dear bride, go ahead with your planning with easiness and simplicity. I'm sure you'll have the best day ever!
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Source by Giulia Macchia
