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Wedding disasters are hard to predict, easy to stress out about, and the subject of infinite discussion and prevention techniques. With all of the money, time and thought that goes into planning a wedding, you would hope that one would not have to worry about a night that ends in disaster for the bride and groom, however wedding tragedies do happen. Whether you are deeply involved in the decision-making process or are taking a more passive role, you need to know how to act to ensure that your wedding goes off without a hitch.
Firstly, let it be known immediately that no wedding will ever be perfect. To get you in the right state of mind, think of your marriage ceremony as one of many social gatherings like a business meeting, a party at a friend’s house, or a visit with your parents. The higher the level of expectation, the more critical you will be with the perceived flaws and failures of the event. It is not the case that a day spent watching television and eating potato chips is a perfect event; it is just that the expectations for a day built on doing nothing tends to be very low. An event like a wedding is on the opposite side of this expectation/disappointment spectrum. As the groom, you are faced with a wealth of expectations from your bride, to the families and guests who will watch you. These expectations tend to be rigid and build on years of thought, tradition, and hopefulness on the part of everyone present. If you are the partner to a bride with high expectations and hopes for the ceremony, consider it your job to be the understanding and flexible foil to her rigidity.
The primary responsibility of the groom-foil is to accommodate and understand. If your bride to be has taken the role of the decision maker for the nuptials, keep yourself one step ahead of impending disaster by asking her the questions (and listening to the answers) that a bride would need to hear. This means being involved throughout the whole process of planning, keeping up to date with what has happened in terms of catering, floral arrangements, guests lists, reception activities and seating charts, and being there for your bride when problems arise- because they will. This is all still presupposing that as the groom you are taking a backseat to the decision making process, if you want to be a primary part of the decision-making, your level of empathy and understanding need to be even higher. You will have to accept the fact that your bride is likely to have different opinions than you in a number of significant areas. Be willing to listen, discuss, and adjust your expectations and needs.
Whichever role you choose to play in your wedding, know that the way that you prepare for the ceremony is the ceremony you will be preparing for. If you take a backseat role that ignores the needs of your bride, know that you are placing yourself in a passive position and are at the mercy of any number of wedding disasters that could happen. If you are taking an active role, know that the decisions you make will reflect the success or failure of the ceremony. However you choose to prepare for your wedding, a choice to be smart, understanding, and thoughtful will be a choice to be a good partner.
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Source by Budda Oliver
