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Your wedding is just a few weeks away, and you're feeling ill. Nothing seems to help. When you think of the wedding day, you have mixed emotions. You're happy, but butterflies that do not feel so good seem to rise up within you, at the same time. What is going on?

First of all, you need to know that this is normal and just about everyone gets cold – everyone! These feelings of anxiety, worry and concern are very normal prior to a wedding, and both the bride and the groom may experience this. Do not concern yourself because before you know it, those feelings will pass. Reason for this is that sometimes tension and anxiety looks for a reason other than the obvious, which is putting together the biggest day of your life. That in itself can make you question if it's the right thing to do. Many couples have a hard time believing that the stress they are experiencing is just that – stress. Instead, we question the decision of saying, "I do".

First tip – relax – breathe – go to the beach or the spa or where it is that you relax the best. Listen to music that helps calm you and talk it out with a parent or close friend. But, please make sure it's someone that will be objective and truly understands what is happening, not someone who is trying to thwart your special day. Just know that your feelings are completely normal and natural. For some reason, just thinking about that helps.

A good test of your anxiety is to take out a piece of paper and write down all of the things that are making you nervous and you are sweating over. You will soon find that they are all normal things that everyone gets worried about and not really directed at your future spouse.

Also, if you have a married friend that has been through it, speaking to that person especially helps. They have gone down this road, and if they are completely honest, they will tell you that they went through it also. Something about knowing that others have felt the same way and understand you get you through this time much quicker.

Next, make a list of all your fears and then all the reasons why you are marrying your partner. Normally, that puts this thing to bed. After doing this, write a love letter to your future spouse. Whether you give it to them or not is not an issue. Just do this to help you get in touch with your real feelings. Soon, they'll come flooding out and you'll know that this is all anxiety and it soon will pass.

Lastly, get away from the whole wedding process. I tell people that I consult on their weddings, that at least one or two days during the last few weeks, they need to walk away; go shopping or drive to the ocean. You need to do something that will totally take you away from the craziness. You will come back a different person. That I promise you.

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Source by Delora O'Brien