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There is an assumption that when a woman becomes engaged, she will be very excited to plan her wedding. While that is certainly true for many brides, there are also a lot of women out there who care about getting married, but not the wedding part. It can be challenging to organize an event as large as a wedding when planning parties simply does not interest you. These are some wedding planning tips for “anti-brides” to help you get through the process.

A woman who I know recently confessed that when she got married, she sat down with a friend and made up all the details for the wedding announcement her family was putting in the newspaper. The truth was that she did not know what type of flowers were in her bouquet, who designed her wedding jewelry, or what fabric her dress was made from – and nor did she care. All the bride knew was that the dress was white, the flowers were white, and her wedding jewelry was made from pearls; she simply did not find the specific details all that interesting, nor could she understand why anyone else would. This is a perfect example of an anti-bride.

While a bride-to-be may not be all that interested in the small details of her wedding, there are nonetheless a lot of details which must be attended to in order to pull the event together. For an anti-bride, the best way to handle this situation is usually ceding control to someone else. Hiring a wedding planner can be an excellent idea for a bride who does not want to spend her days looking over centerpiece designs or choosing tablecloth colors. If the bride has a willing mother or best friend, she might hand the reins over to that person to take the lead in organizing the wedding ceremony and reception.

For the anti-bride who will have to manage most of the wedding planning herself, the best advice is to streamline the process. Word of mouth can be a great way to connect with reliable wedding vendors who will do a nice job, and that will save you hours of legwork and interviews. Start by picking a wedding venue with a hands-on coordinator. If you choose a reception site like a hotel or country club which provides all of the things you will need, your job will be far easier than if you opt for a site like a tent or a loft which is a blank slate. Be upfront with your venue’s coordinator that you are going to put a lot of trust into her taste to plan a lovely wedding and that you do not need to be consulted on every little detail (except the ones which will cost you extra money!). Then give the florist, caterer, baker and the rest of your vendors a budget and general style, and let them handle the rest.

Wedding gown shopping can be very challenging for an anti-bride. It might be hard to get excited about spending a lot of money on a gown for just one day when you are not one of those women who regards a wedding as the biggest day of her life. To make your life easier, spend at least a few minutes skimming through bridal magazines and websites to get an idea of what you might like in a wedding gown before heading out to the bridal salons. If all you can figure out is what you do not want in a gown, that alone can be enough to help a seasoned bridal consultant guide you towards a wedding dress which will make you really happy. And when you find a gown which makes you look and feel good, do not worry if you don’t have the emotional response which you often see on tv. You don’t have to cry to know you have found the right wedding gown!

One great thing about being an anti-bride is that you should be able to avoid having your life consumed by all things wedding. An upside to that is that without being obsessed with perfection, you might actually be able to relax and enjoy your wedding day. And with the wedding behind, you will be able to move on to the most important thing – building a life with your new husband.

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Source by Laura Firenze