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Quite often as the wedding officiants, we are asked by couples "Should we have kids in the wedding party?"

Our answer is to encourage the couple to involve those people in their wedding party that are important to them, even if they are under three feet tall. Children add a vulnerability and a humanness to weddings, mostly because they are just being themselves. They cry when they get scared and they giggle because they are happy. Nothing is hidden. Often their reactions are welcomed and understood by all.

If children are important to you and you would like to include them, do so. Prepare them in advance. Walk them through what they will need to do, even take them to the venue where you are getting married. Be sure the clothing they wear for your day is appropriate and comfortable. Keep in mind, shoes that are too tight or too loose, crinolines close to the skin, ties knotted too tight, make kids prickly.

Include the children in the parties and the showers but remember they are kids and may tire quickly of grown-up fun. Have kid friendly games, videos and even other children present for the moment they wear thin of the adults talking. At the wedding ceremony and reception, have them stand or sit according to what you think they can handle. I have had some children stand just perfectly on a quarter taped to the floor. Of course they kept their eye on that quarter through that ceremony knowing it was their when it was over! For those children who will sit after their walk down the aisle, designated adults or family members are often pleased to assist.

When children are important to you, have them in your bridal party and be prepared for them just to be children.

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Source by Anne Blinch