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Your Save-the-Dates have been mailed out ages ago. Your friends are waiting anxiously for your wedding day, or at least you imagine they are. The invitations have been sent out. The menus have been gone over more than once. The limousines are all lined up. The date is fast approaching, is there anything else you may have forgotten? Ah, yes your wedding vows. You could of course leave it up to the official who will marry you and your potential spouse or you could write or gather them yourselves.

There are several things or ways in which you can come up with your wedding vows. You can, of course, confer with your spouse-to-be about what type of vows you’d like to use. The response of course, could run the gamut from the traditional to something so out of the ordinary that no one would ever forget them, but whichever way you do go, the type and style of the wedding invitation will probably be the clue to the guests as to what may come. The style will also give you a clue as to from which direction you might want to go when writing your vows or you of course can just go with the flow.

Tip 1

Sit down with your future spouse and decide what you would like to convey to each. (Many women and sometimes men will have an idea that they have kicked around since childhood but since you are about to go into a joint venture together, please consult your future spouse.)

Tip 2

Determine whether or not you want to make up something fresh. If you are both poets or lyricists or even ministers or actors, or even writers it may not be a problem, since words just fall from your lips naturally. If not, you may want to consult your favorite writers or poets and homogenize something into your own.

Whatever you do decide to choose, make sure you can make sense of it when you either read it or memorize and speak it during the ceremony.

Tip 3

If you and your spouse decide to go with something that is already established in another medium;

o Famous quotes, which could be incorporated into something else that you have written and want to say about your future spouse.

a. Choose lyrics from your favorite song, or even “your song” and expound on that to your future spouse.

b. A beautiful song for such things might be what my husband and I had planned to dance to as our first song. “The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face” or “Someone to Watch Over Me” or “Fallin” (Alicia Keys). Take a look at any of the lyrics from these songs and I am sure you will get inspired, if you are not already inspired by the idea of writing your own vows.

c. The best thing might be to start or end with the title or famous line of the song, but to write your own feelings about your future spouse in the middle.

Tip 3

a. Just because it is part of the ceremony, it does not have to rhyme. There is no need to put such pressure on yourselves. Speak from your heart and it will be beautiful, because it is coming from you to your new spouse. Just sit at first and write a stream of consciousness about how you feel about your potential partner. Edit yourself a couple times over the course of the next couple days until you have exactly how you feel and what you want to say.

b. Perhaps you like to talk about how long you waited for the right person.

c. The ups and downs of your relationship.

d. Your love at first sight.

e. The honesty, love, and specialness of the relationship.

f. The idea that separately you are good, but together you are great.

g. God separated you at some other time, but has seen fit to bring you back together.

h. How much you love each other, why, when you came to that conclusion, where it happened, how you were able to stay together through challenges along the way. Succinctly, of course.

i. How you met and why from the outside looking in, you know it seemed an impossibility for you two to stay together, but you always you knew you could and would.

j. How your partner is like a flower, an adorable animal, a picture, an element, mineral, or nature, and why.

Tip 4

a. You could pick passages from the Book of Ruth or from the Song of Solomon in the Bible:

b. Use parts of it and add your additions to it or again use some of the famous lines and expound. We used the latter and built a somewhat call and response to include the congregants at our wedding.

c. By adding the call and response, your guests are not just sitting as an audience but are a participatory part of the ceremony which adds an additional appeal. People love helping out wedding couples, [and expectant parents] no matter how small.

Tip 5

Vows don’t have to be recited either; you could have the minister; administer them to you as you repeat afterwards the new special vows.

Tip 6

You could also sing your vows to each other. A friend of mine married another opera singer and they chose opera pieces to sing to each other. They chose famous opera pieces of love [Let’s face it most operas are about romance with life getting in the way of a great thing, but with triumph in the end.] That way you have ready-made vows, which the only thing you may need to do is translate so the congregants will understand that you are singing about love.

Writing your own vows can be an amazing part of your wedding. It is not hard and it can be a lot of fun. You can write silly vows or very serious. It depends on what you want to convey to your future spouse and are willing to share with a crowd. Also, you can surprise each by not telling the other what you will write, but make sure you give a deadline or one person may be surprised a little bit more than they want to be at the altar, especially if it has become a forgotten art rather than a romantic or silly interval in the ceremony. Whatever is chosen writing your vows together or apart can be fun, enlightening, or even romantic and amazingly easy to do. Have fun.

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Source by CharLena M. Pearson