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They say that imitation is a form of flattery, but when it is your wedding ideas that are being copied, it sure doesnt feel like a compliment! Unfortunately, some brides run into the problem of a friend who is copying her wedding ideas to use in her own wedding. What is a girl to do when a friend steels her wedding ideas?

There is no doubt that if a friend is copying your wedding plans that she thinks you have great taste. However, that does not make it feel any better! Brides these days put intense time and effort into making their weddings unique and personal; the last thing they want is to have their wedding look like anyone else's. Even worse is when the copycat's wedding is to take place before your own. Not only will your wedding look like a clone of hers, but people may well think that you stub her ideas, instead of the other way around! Talk about stealing your thunder.

There are a few steps to take when dealing with a copycat bride. The first is to stop sharing information with her! Do not post any of your details on your wedding website, Facebook, or anywhere else where she might get a sneak peek of your plans. If asked, be pleasant but coy; do not give the copycat any direct information. For instance, if your friend requests what your wedding gown looks like, it is perfectly fine to sweetly say, "you'll just have to wait and see" or "I'm keeping it a surprise".

What if it is too late, and your so-called friend has already directly copied some of your wedding details? To some extent, it will depend what they are. If you have both already ordered the same wedding gown, no one is going to be willing to lose their deposit and cancel the order. As offensive as it is, you will have to grin and bear it (and be sure that you look more amazing in the gown than she does!). You can also add your own unique touches to set your gown apart. Layer in a sash in your wedding colors, pin a crystal brooch to the waistline, or spice it up with special custom bridal jewelry and a breathing veil. Then do not tell the other bride what you are doing!

Confrontation may also be needed too, especially if there will be a lot of guests and attendees in common between your wedding and hers. For instance, if you mentioned in passing that you planned to get engraved silver bracelets for your bridesmaid jewelry gifts and then she tells you the next day that she is getting them too, speak up. You have the right to tell her that you would appreciate it if she would choose a different type of bridesmaid jewelry gift. But choose your battles; if you will not have any of the same attendants, let her copy your bridesmaid gift ideas but put your foot down about her making an exact replica of your bouquet.

Disinformation can also be an effective strategy. If you know that someone has been swiping your ideas, the next time she asks you about something, feel free to throw her a red herring. "Oh yes, Charles and I will be doing our first dance to the 'Macarena'." Meanwhile, on the day of her wedding, she will be out there dancing to some ridiculous song while you and your hubby glide around the dance floor to Frank Sinatra. It would serve her right.

Try to find some compassion, as well, for your copycat friend. Anyone who is willing to be so blatantly unoriginal obviously has some insecurities when it comes to her own style. Maybe if you can help her find her own sense of style, she will not be so quick to steal yours, and you will both have beautiful and unique weddings in the end.

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Source by Laura Firenze