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Deciding who to invite to your wedding can be a very daunting task. It's your wedding so it's up to you who is on the guest list and who's not. Everyone has their own method to work out who makes it onto the invite list. Find a way that works for you. One method is to make a list of all your family first, parents; siblings; their kids; grandparents; aunts and uncles; cousins, etc. Then add friends, associates, and so on. Your fiance will do the same, or maybe they will have their own method.

Once you've got everyone listed go through your list and start crossing people off. Assuming you've only written down people you think you'd like to come, and you have a long list, this may be a difficult task for you. To help, ask yourself if you will still be friends with that person by the time your wedding day comes. If you think you will, then do you think you'll be friends on your first anniversary? If you answered no to either of those questions, then cross them off the list. Family can be a little different, but you can still cross some members from the list. When was the last time you saw that cousin? Do you ring, send letters or email each other? Are they involved in your life? Do you see them on holidays, and if you lived in the same town would things be any different? Again, if no to these questions, then cross them off.

A general rule of thumb is if you have not seen them in 12 to 18 months then put them on the bottom of the list, if at all. Hopefully you've both been able to bring your invitation list down to a more realistic number. Swap lists with your partner. They may see someone you have not got on your list that they think you may like to have there. Cross off any double ups and put them on one of your lists. You may find you've dropped 10 guests just by both of you listing 5 couples that are mutual friends! On your fiancees list you may find someone you do not want to invite. Do not just cross that person off. Talk about it first. Tell your partner why you do not want that person there, maybe you feel really uncomfortable around them. If you are calm, open and can compromise with each other it will make planning your wedding a lot easier.

If you seem to be going now fast, put it away. Come back to it tomorrow or next week. Imagine your wedding day. Can you see yourself mingling with your guests? Who are not you going to go out of your way to talk to? Anyone? If there is someone sitting over in the corner that you will not go over to, then you guessed it, cross them off. Run through the guest list with your parents. It may be a nice gesture to ask them if there is anyone they'd like to see at your wedding. Hopefully your wedding guest list is a lot more manageable now, and you do not have more guests than you, your budget or your chosen venue can cater for.

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Source by Gail Power