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I get really frustrated when people think that Halloween weddings are an invitation to be goofy. I do not think your wedding ceremony is a great time to be in costume, I think it is a great time to be exactly yourself. Your wedding vows form the bedrock of your marriage and that is something to be serious about. And Hallowmas, which is an agricultural season, is a very solemn celebration – although even solemn wedding ceremonies can be light-hearted. Any wedding is a joyful event! Here is how I have always understood Hallowmas:
Hallowmas : Building on Tradition – October 31:
Look into your future through the lens of your past. What knowledge can your ancestors offer you? What did they teach you that you would do better to release? Face your shadow and make your peace. If you have traditions that you wish to honor, this is the perfect holiday to support that. This is the holiday of our ancestors. How will you incorporate your heritage into your wedding vows, your wedding ceremony and your marriage?
So, what are some metaphors you might use to celebrate this holiday in your wedding ceremony?
o Mirrors : this is the season of through the glass darkly but then face to face … Celebrate the person you have become. You have worked hard to get to the place where this love could blossom and flourish. You have both worked hard on this relationship and only with the engagement did the direction of your future really begin to crystallize.
o Twilight : this is the soft time of the year. In the summer everything is bright and very well delineated. When we look at ourselves in twilight, we look with the eyes of Love. Each of us has our warts and our problems, but love softens the flaws and shows the world how beautiful we are, how beautiful our beloved is and how wonderful our relationship is. This twilight glance is one we will need to call on through our marriage.
o Candles. The light at this time of year is often indirect. Let soft light flicker and soften our angle … again, this is the forgiving light of Love.
o Family Tradition : This is the holiday of the ancientors, of our lineage and of our heritage. Celebrate your family in your wedding ceremony and understand how they have, do and will continue to contribute to your marriage. This is an especially appropriate time to include family or cultural traditions in your wedding ceremony and begin to think about the traditions you will want to be part of your family life.
o Forgiveness : this is the time of forgiveness. You do not want to go into your marriage carrying a whole big bunch of resentment around. If you are one of the many people who grow up with a less than perfect family, do your work and come to this marriage with an open heart. Why drag your past forward into your glorious future? Your marriage describes the best start it can get. If there are things you regret from your past, this is a good time to make restitution. Now, make no mistake, I am NOT suggesting that you drag all this up in your wedding ceremony, but you might want to make allusions to finishing what has gone before.
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Source by Ann Keeler Evans
