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When I work at a Wedding the thing I tend to notice most is how happy the couple looks and how they interact with each other.

After all, on what is supposed to be the most beautiful day of their new life together, it seems happiness and contentment should be oozing out of the couples every pore. now of course there is nothing natural, (well at least not without your Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt), about being the center of attention, playing the part of both hostess, host and guest of honor in what is thought of as the monumental moment in your life; but even given this, would not you think this, the wedding day would be the day above all other days that the couples love would be radiant, is not that after all what this day is all about?

Oh now of course adorable little favors, a wonderful meal, beautiful cake, bridesmaids dresses … the colors, flowers, and even the dance music all go into the making of a memorable day, but these things are the obvious, the controlled, the planned things. But the real telling part of any wedding day is the couple getting married and the way they appear to feel about each other.

Because I work in the Wedding industry I get to see couples I do not know personally, which means I get to see the way they come across to the outside world, not the way Aunt Becky or Uncle John or their best friends see them but the way the couple comes across to the casual observer. Their behavior on this special occasion to a casual observer, such as myself seems to speak volumes about their relationship, their real feelings about and toward each other and, (though I can not prove it), it may also tell us something about them chance of a happily ever after. Yes, it seems to me that the true story of this most special occasion is there, in the face of the couples, the way they look at each other, and even in their body language, not in the money space or all of the intricate planning that went into their wedding day!

Unfortunately there is no love test to pass before you qualify for a marriage license. You do not even have to pass a "I like you," test. All you have to do is say, "will you ?," have them respond, "Sure" and that's it.

One would assume these two must be deeply in love to be willing to spend, what usually amounts to a small fortune, a ton of time and effort and planning to stand in front of a bunch of family and friends and promise "for ever and ever . "

But sometimes when you look at their behavior towards each other and take in their faces and body language you wonder how they ever ended up here or at least how they ended up here together.

I know this is a sort of judging a book by its cover; even so i think there is, if nothing more, at least some idea, if not conclusion about what wedding day behavior says about the couple getting married.

I have seen couples who seem to carry a sort of peaceful serenity with in themselves and their relationship. Their confidence no doubt speaks to their maturity. It also seems to speak of a shared understanding between them. You definitely get the feeling watching them that this is a long awaited meaningful moment, something, that although has been a long time coming. They seem to drift apart across the room to great guests and drift back together, not by intention but by natural attraction. As if they are attuned. In a sort of natural rhythm with each other.

I have also seen couples. That seems to almost have fallen here by accident. These are the couples that rarely look at each other. They spend most of their time at their wedding reception, separately. Each spending the time with their own family and friends. It is almost as if you could draw a line down the middle of the room. She and her quests on one side. He and his quests on the other. You can not help but wonder what in the world these people talk about when they are alone, or maybe they purposely never are.

There are the "I'm the boss'" couples, where one of them seems to be constantly managing the other. Directing the other as you would a child, "come on," "sigh," "were suppose to dance," "sigh," "come on pictures," "sigh," "come on we start the food line," " sigh "… and you picture he / she tying the other persons shoes in the morning and wiping the other persons chin after dinner and I do not mean in a compassionate way. This is where you can either figuratively or literally see one tapping their food impatiently at the other.

Then, there is the subliminally mean to each other couple. I once saw one such couple take the "adorable" tradition of shoving the wedding cake in the other persons face, (which really is not an adorable tradition at all), to a new level, when the groom, who had seemed quite self satisfied through the whole event, (as apposed to satisfied with this sweet girl by his side), not only shove the cake in his lovely brides face but basically throw it at her; to the point where she, in her embarrassment halfheartedly threw a piece back, in a sort of self defense retaliation. Then there she stand, near tears with cake splattered down the front of her beautiful wedding gown, her shoes and in her hair. When her brides maids whisked her away to the bathroom to help her clean up. The groom stand there with a satisfied grin. I kept imagining the bridesmaid thinking about how many times they had tried to talk her out of marring this jerk !.

Fortunately, Every now and then you see a couple that looks at each other with such love that you cant help but be moved by it. These are the couples that seem as if they have a shared secret, when there eyes meet you can feel how happy they are just to be here with each other, You feel not only their love for each other but for the wedding guests. I was actually the guest at just such a wedding. When the video-tographer submitted the DVD of the event he wrote the couple telling them how he had included extra footage because, "everyone was having such a good time, he did not want to stop filming", so he had filmed more then normal. This wedding was not the biggest I had ever seen and it certainly was not the most expensive, it was just one of the most meaningful. Later a guest commented, "I do not know why," but that was the most beautiful wedding I have ever seen. "

I know why, it was the love in the room. That is after all what a wedding is suppose to be about!

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Source by Marilee Knapik