[ad_1]
I can still remember the first best man wedding toast that I have over 12 years ago because it was so pathetic and embarrassing. I did not plan anything because I never knew that the best man was supposed to give a toast!
Writing your wedding toast can be accomplished in 3 easy steps:
- Write a brief outline of ideas and stories
- Add the ideas to a speech template
- Practice the speech once or twice
When giving the best man toast, speak naturally from the heart. It's okay to make a few blunders and stumbles-it eases the tension and everyone will know that you are sincere.
Preparation and proper planning are key when creating your best man toast. I just wrote down ideas on a yellow legal pad and wrote a nice outline. If you have access to digital camera, use the video record mode and do aa dry run for your best man toast. Practice will make the final toast to the bride and groom easy.
I am suggesting that you use a guide or a template. This will keep you on track so that you do not give a long winded speech. Essentially, a template uses your own words. It's going to be 99% your speech by the time that you get through.
Forget about being a procrastinator because it will show up in your toast and you may end up embarrassing yourself as well as the bride and groom. This is a very special event and proper preparation make your toast a hit that everyone will remember for a life time. Using a web site to help you write the speech will give you a professionally crafted talk that flows like a conversation between two people.
When you finally give the wedding toast, speak from the heart. Do not give a speech. Rather, tell a few stories and be conversational. Keep the speech short and simple. Anything under 5 minutes will be appreciated and applauded by all.
You will need to introduce yourself. As popular as many think they are, not everyone will know you. Briefly speak about how you and the groom became friends. This is where little humor can be very beneficial. You will have a lot of rope on what you can say, but do not say anything that will hang you and the groom. Most likely, he did not tell his bride everything. Never mention old girl friends. Ever!
You need to say nice things about both the bride and groom's parents. If you do not know them, I recommend that you give them a call and introduce yourself. Ask them if you can help them in any way with the wedding. Yep, this is a best man's job. Chances are both parents will say no. Now you have scored some points and you can honestly say nice things about them.
Make eye contact with as many people as possible. A quick panoramic scan of the guests will be felt by all. You need not make eye contact with everyone-but the guests will feel like you are talking to them. If both parents are there, it would really be great to say a nice thing or two about them raising such wonderful kids. Just do not get happy-the speech is supposed to be light hearted and funny.
Do not even think of embarrassing the bride. It is her day to shine. You can take a shot or two at the groom as long as it's clean. Just mention a few stupid things he did while dating the beautiful bride like not having enough money to pay for a date, losing his car keys, cell phone, etc.
Do not get spoken up in a real eloquent speech. This is not the place. Be your self. If you are a terrible public speaker, nobody will care as long as you speak sincerely. You will be more relatable by making mistakes. Just be a regular guy and everyone will love you.
Relax and enjoy the moment.
[ad_2]
Source by Andrew Jasper
