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Part of the process of smooth wedding planning is the way you treat your bridesmaids. Naturally, they're an important part of the wedding and they're there for you on your special day. Their role is to help you in any way that they can help help reduce the level of stress and keep everything running smoothly on your wedding day. Your responsibility is to treat your bridesmaids well. They may be there to help you, but they are not your personal slaves and should not be treated that way.

Everyone has heard the horror stories about the self-centered, out-of-control bride who is so bossy and overall nasty that she ruins the natural joy of planning a wedding. Becoming this type of bride can ruin friendships, so it's important to make sure that you make your bridesmaids feel valued.

Be considerate when choosing bridesmaid dresses. Consider the figure of your bridesmaids and do not force them to wear hideous ruffled dresses in highly unflattering colors. It's not necessary to make them look and feel ugly as you're looking your best.

Try not to become so self-involved that you forget that your bridesmaids have lives and needs as well. It's easy to become so focused on wedding planning that it's all you talk about. Try to shift the focus to your bridesmaids, their lives, interests and the new things going on for them.

There are, course, standard bridesmaids duties. And most bridesmaids will be happy to fulfill those duties. But do not take their devotion for granted. They're not required to do the dirty work. If you can do it yourself, do it. Or if it's a job a young relative can handle, give that relative the job. You're bridesmaids are not your personal servants who must give up their own lives to act out every one of your whims.

Always consider the financial situations of your bridesmaids. Not all will be able to afford the best of everything, so try to keep the costs they need to cover reasonable. Always treat all bridesmaids equal, even if you've had to choose some simply to keep the family peace. There are times when you may have a bridesmaid you really do not know well because she comes from the family you're marrying into. Be equally pleasant to all of them. Always graciously thank your bridesmaids for the time, money and effort that they invested in the bridal shower and other events that they planned for you, even if the way they did it may not necessarily have been the way you would have preferred.

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Source by April Bishop