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Most people who marry do not even give it a thought. They go about their way making plans and choosing colors, outfits, programs, etc. But have you ever stopped to think why people bother going through the process? You may think that it's always been done, but the truth is wedding ceremonies of modern times are not from the oldest times. Every culture has its way of joining a couple in matrimony. But what is the undering reason we have public, social ceremonies?
Typically, the most common denominator of a marriage ceremony is what goes on after all the other social exercises; the honeymoon night. It may seem a little graphic, but if the bride and groom never consummate the wedding, it can be annulled with no issues what so ever. In some cultures, the proof that a bride saved herself for marriage was her consummated bedding. The evidence was indisputable that she had never done the act that was accepted to be reserved for child bearing and marginal expressions of love and commitment. The parents of the bride would even keep that "token" as proof that their daughter was never married nor acted married with another man. That was the wedding or marriage ceremony for ages.
Fast forward to modern times, we see a slightly different reason. Except for a few places throughout the world, chastity is no longer a prerequisite for marriage, so out goes the "token" of virginity. Now, we use the event as a witnessing of the uniting of two souls. No one can deny a public wedding ritual. It gives undeniable proof of intent to marry. It also builds a bond between the couple. They both take part in the union and the focus is squarely on the two of them. Both may be equally nervous, thereby, forming a memorable mental connection. It is also a gathering of the two families in a formal setting. Many of the relatives may never be seen again. So this shows a willingness to come together and support both family's appetite to bond as one.
Weddings are a joyous time. Here is the desire to share in the happiness that the couple have with each other. They want to extend that to others. That's why the majority of weddings are free to the attendees and all activities are fed and valued as important as the bridal party; because they are. Wedding ceremonies also give everyone the chance to verbally express themselves without feeling awkward. Many emotional words in the form of songs, poems, and vows are said. They are somewhat of a public covenant spoken aloud by the bride and groom. Everyone gets to see and hear what is in the heart of the couple toward each other. It is why more and more people are opting to film their ceremony. Not as a witness to their union, but to hear those beautiful heart felt words that were said to each other. This is why it is important that you always keep communication going, but also take the time to give a token of words to remind your life mate how yo feel. This is why we give a card with a gift. We want the receiver to know why we gave the gift and where it is coming from in our heart. Nothing can convey that better than words.
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Source by Tim L Taylor
