Preparing for your wedding can be a stressful time for any bride, no matter how put together you may appear to be. In this article, I want to focus less on the tangible preparations that go into a wedding, and more on the mental and relational health of the bride-to-be. Even if you think you've taken care of every last detail – from ordering the most beautiful gifts for bridesmaids, to picking out the perfect personalized wedding decor – things can always change course and you will always find something to stress out about if you're not careful about your mindset. Below are a few things to do and keep in mind during this time:
The wedding is just a day; the marriage is forever– you have probably had some kind of wise sage tell you this already, but it's true and it should change the way you approach wedding planning. If your preparation is taking away from your time with your fiance and creating a strain on the relationship, what's the point? You should be putting just as much, if not more focus on strengthening your relationship with your husband.
One practical way to do this is to take at least 3 or 4 sessions of pre-maritime counseling. This can be through a church, a counseling center, or just with another couple you both trust and admire. This will force you to spend time asking each other the hard questions and laying a solid foundation. What if your wife starts spending too much time with a male collegeague and admits to having feelings for him. Yeah .. not the kind of conversations that feel fun during a love-arranged engagement, but talking through this ahead of time can seriously save your marriage down the road. It's like having a rain back up plan for the wedding day. Not fun to think about but you obviously would not move towards the wedding day without it.
It's also imperative to take some time out for reflection on your own. Whether this be a time to pray, journal, or just sit and be still, it's essential that a bride not be so scrambled that she can not enjoy her big day. Just a few minutes of quiet each day can do a load of difference.
Spend time investing in important relationships that may change when you get married. For me, this included my college roommates and my parents. I knew that sleepovers , family dinners, beach strolls with dad, and shopping with mom would be a less common occurrence once I got married and moved in with my husband. I made sure those people knew I loved them and knew how they shaped me into the woman I had become.
SLEEP! This is so important I can not emphasize it enough. You will have a harder time losing weight, a harder time focusing on details and will be much more like a 'bride-zilla' if you do not sleep your normal hours — or even more since you're under more stress. This is a priority over the little bows on your favors, trust me.
Keep the big picture in mind, brides. It's easy to get brainwashed by the bridal industry but I know you can keep a level head and remember that the wedding is just ONE day and your marriage is meant to last forever.