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As you plan your wedding your conversations revolve around the big day but are they taking a turn for the worse?
"Of course you'll need to invite Edith to the wedding.
"I do not want a limo. I want to show up in a monster truck."
"I've got shoes that are pretty close in color to the bridesmaid dress; I'll just wear those instead of buying new ones."
Arrghh! So infuriating! Do any of these situations sound familiar? If they do not yet, they (or something like them) will sound familiar very, very soon.
Nothing brings out conflict between family and friends like a wedding and the planning that leads up to it.
EVERYONE has an opinion and a special circumstance and you'll soon discover that planning a wedding does not needlessly feel like planning your dream day but rather accommodating everyone else's unusual requests. Here are 5 tips to help you deal with the situation whenever differing opinions rear their ugly heads:
1. Do not make a decision right away- You might be completely in the right to put your foot down and say "NO, I'm not having polka music at my wedding," but it's better to put the decision off until later when things have chilled out. You may still come to the same decision but a short break can help all conflicting parties feel like the decision was not made in the heat of battle. Whenever the temperature starts to rise, just say: "There are some good points being made here but I'm not ready to make the decision just yet.
2. Discover the art of compromise- Some situations should have no compromise (like your dress), but some situations will need to be worked out with a compromise. One great example of where compromise could play a part in your wedding is when the groom gives his opinion. You've been planning your wedding day for so long and it's so perfect that your groom has been thinking about it too. Of course he wants your day to be special for you but his personality should shine through, too. Get him on the planning track by signing him up for my husband's groom tips here at Gutsy Groom. Simon has a great way of getting the groom involved and helping them to work with you, the bride, so the wedding is a reflection of both your personalities.
3. Pick your battles- Some conflicts just do not make sense in the long run. If your parents are paying for the reception and they want to invite one more person, does it really matter to you? You already have enough stress in your life and butting heads on issues that have little consequence is not worth the effort. Decide wherever you need to fight to the finish or bow out graciously.
4. Learn to graciously disagree- Tempers can flare and wedding disagreements can create lasting scars on a relationship. When tempers flare be ready with a kind way of disagreeing graciously. This will take some practice to give the person you love a loving-but-negative answer without placing blame while showing them why it's in your interest and their interest to go along with your idea: "Julie, I'm sure your shoes are close in color to your dress but they are quite different than the other bridesmaids shoes and that will be noticeable. That sounds a lot better than, "Julie, if you do not buy matching shoes you're no longer my bridesmaid or my friend!"
Bridal Advice
What makes weddings so awesome is the emotion but it also makes them tricky affairs of the heart. When you're in the thick of a situation it can be tough to see what the rational decision. These kinds of situations are common among all brides and something that I spend a lot of time chatting with my clients about. Having an outsider like a wedding planner who can help you put things into perspective can be a real lifesaver.
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Source by Ciara Daykin
