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Before I cover why traditional weddings are boring, let me first define what I believe a traditional wedding to be.
A traditional wedding in my eyes is one that is done by the books. In other words, it takes place in either a church, a park, a wedding hall or other indoor facility where the bride and groom family members are present. Following the wedding there is the post wedding reception party where the bride throws the bouquet to all the single 'want to be married' young women and all the stuff you see in just about every other wedding takes place in a similar fashion.
This others me in that I do not want to know exactly step by step how my wedding is going to plan out a head of time. The same principle applies to life in general. Would you want to live a life that is planned out ahead of time or one in which you do not know the future and anything can happen. While there will be people on both sides of this, I prefer to be spontaneous because the thought of knowing my destiny leaves me unsatisfied.
I personally believe that the whole 'spontaneous' philosophy is healthier a married couple. Some might argue that not planning things a head of time is irresponsible and a sign of laziness, however that is far from the truth. Certain things should be planned out a head of time like your 401K retirement plan, and certain things should be spontaneous.
So what is a spontaneous wedding? For one, knowing the location a head of time is a good thing, and having someone there willing to marry you when you arrive is also a must. Other than that though, the rest should be left alone.
Personally, I want to be married in an exotic place such as the Maldive Islands. I do not care if nobody shows up because of travel expenses because it is my wedding and I will only do it once in my life therefor I want to make it unforgettable. Upon arriving at my exotic location of choice soon after I will have been married to the love of my life.
Rather than having to plan the honey moon, I think I would rather plan a series of flights each getting closer and closer back to home (USA) while spending about 2 days in each stop along the way. Sure it is expensive, but not having 150 people attending the wedding should cover most of the cost, besides it is about me and my wife anyway, not the other 150 people so my money is going to be spent on our traveling and honey-mooning rather than their fancy wine and expensive food.
I strongly recommend you consider the same train of thought when preparing for a marriage. I am sure you and your spouse will most definitely have an unforgetable time which you can talk about for the rest of your lives.
Best of luck.
