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As the best man's speech is the first one of the day, it can help set the tone for the whole day. One of the worst things that can happen is for the best man to start the day with an ill-prepared speech. People will forgive nervousness, although this can be controlled, but they find it hard to forgive someone who has not taken the time to think about what he is going to say. It shows a lack of support for the couple on their big day and a lack of respect for the guests. If a man takes on the job the least he can do is to try to deliver a good, appropriate speech.

Use the KISS formula

In this case it means two things – Keep it Simple Stupid and Keep it Short Stupid. The job is to toast the bride and groom and then toast the bridesmaids. It is not a long, rambling, going-nowhere speech that bores and sometimes embarrasses everyone. It is certainly not helped if fueled by too much alcohol. Any longer than about 3 minutes is probably too long, unless you are an experienced speaker and you know what you are doing.

Prepare, Prepare, Prepare

There is no substitute for preparation. Sure, any of us can be called on to make an impromptu speech on occasions, but this is not one of those occasions. There would have been plenty of time to prepare and everyone knows that. The best way to do this is to write down what you are going to say, then go over it until you are satisfied. Commit as much as you can to memory – writing it yourself will help you remember it. This will also give you more confidence and dispel some nervousness we all feel when we have to talk in public.

Practice, Practice, Practice

This is part of the preparation but an important part. Practice in front of the mirror or practice in front of another person. If you are not used to public speaking, hearing yourself say the words out loud will build you confidence. It will build your confidence even more if you deliver it to another person. If you think you might have trouble speaking without notes, then make some headings and talk to those. If you are going to be too nervous without reading your speech, then read it, but make sure you do not read every single word with you head down. Use your notes as a reminder and then look up at the audience to deliver your speech.

With a little work on your part and maybe some help from others, there is no reason why your Best Man speech can not be a great success.

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Source by William Burnell